Type casting...

One of the big attractions of the bear scene is that it is full of men that tend to be 'my type' (insomuch as I have a type - my long-term partner doesn't fit my type in any way shape or form).

So - what do I like in a guy and what makes them 'my type'? There is a danger of making this into a check list and getting into a mind set of only being interested in guys that tick all the boxes. This isn't really the case, there's all manner of things that make a guy sexy, and finding a guy sexy is definitely the place to start for a good time! This is just some of the things that come into my mind as turn ons.

Body hair, preferably lots of it. I'm a hairy beast myself and I imagine it is a fairly narcissistic thing, but I do love a man with a hairy chest and belly. Blond guys with with beards and a hairy chest are a big turn on - I suspect this may have something to do with rarity value (and possibly a crush on a PE teacher at a v impressionable age).

While we're on the subject of hirsute men, a word on beards. I love blokes with beards and the current trend for them has screwed up my beardar rather. A short goatee or a nicely trimmed full beard is really sexy and I love kissing a bearded fella. It also makes for excellent blowjobs!

I like blokes to have a bit of meat on their bones. Really skinny, boney guys don't do much for me at all. What I like about the bear scene is that it is fairly forgiving - you don't have to be a muscled up adonis and having a bit of a belly is usually a positive thing! I generally prefer guys on the taller side of things too - 5'11" or more. I guess I like guys that have a lot of physical presence.

So - thats his physicality dealt with. What else do I like?

Good kissing is *essential*. If a bloke doesn't kiss, or pecks away like a budgie at its seed I'm not going to have a good time. I can spend a lot of time kissing so its important to me.

Tattoos/piercings. There is something about tattooed skin that makes me want to touch it. I have a few tattoos myself and I just love them on other guys. Piercings also greatly increase the pleasure I (and him I hope!) get from touching, kissing and sucking. Genital piercings are very horny!

Foreplay. I like to take time and really get to experience a guy's body. Its easy to get a bit focussed on penetration and orgasm - but some of the best sessions I've had haven't involved anal sex and neither of us came!

Safe sex. This should go without saying - but you'd be amazed at how many people are into bareback fucking. I wouldn't lecture a guy on this - he's an idiot so what's the point? I *do* get very cross with people that don't respect my choice and try to get me to fuck them without a condom (I've literally had to shove blokes away when they suddenly try and get my cock up their arse without a condom).

While we are on the topic of turn offs - one big turn off for me is being told what to do. Some guys have these fantasies worked out in there heads and they seem to be checking things off a list. I'm not a porn star nor a performing seal! Sex is always much more interesting when you make it up as you go along! I'm not saying I don't like to be told what is/isn't working for a guy, I just don't want to be made to feel like I'm following instructions, sex shouldn't be like making an Ikea desk!